5 Ways to Self-Love When You’re Stressed Out

Self-love is so important. Naturally, most of us make time to maintain other parts of our lives. We work on our businesses or careers, our relationships, our houses… but what about ourselves? How often do you make your emotional well-being a priority?

As someone who is usually incredibly busy and works ridiculous hours, I can attest to forgetting to stop and slow down every once in a while; to let go of being productive and check in with myself. Before I know it, I’ve been going at a million miles per hour for days. I stop sleeping well, and my eye starts to twitch (when it gets to the point that my eye is twitching, there’s no denying it!). I’ve lost sight of the bigger picture and am just getting caught up in my “to do” list.


Here are the five things that help me calm down, re-set and re-focus myself the most:

1. Breathe.

Duh. But seriously, stop what you’re doing. Stop thinking about all the stuff you have to get done today. Let go of being productive for at least 10 minutes. Now close your computer, turn your phone on silent, and stop worrying about your emails. Do NOTHING for 10 minutes. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. If your mind starts to wander back to the “to do” list, that’s ok. Just lovingly remind yourself to re-focus on breathing. Fill those lungs, baby!

2. Re-Prioritize and Set Boundaries.

Reevaluate the things that seem super duper important right now. What are the things that are stressing you out? What’s not serving you? What can you say “no” to?

Say no to spending time with people who bring you down. Say no to jobs that don’t further you or your business goals. Say no to people who are paying you less than you’re worth. Say no to checking your emails after 8pm. Boundaries are a beautiful thing, my friend!

3. Move!

Get out of your head and into your body! Whatever your thing is. Go for a walk or run, hit the gym, take a dance class, ride your bike, whatever it takes to get your heart rate up for a while.

4. Journal.

Or as I like to call it, “mental spew onto paper.” It’s really amazing what happens when you take about 10-15 minutes to just get everything out. Take all the shit that’s going on in your life and put it on paper. Get real and raw with yourself and don’t hold anything back. Don’t write as if anyone else will ever read it. Just get it all down. Let yourself go off on rabbit trails. Sometimes this is where the best epiphanies happen. I can’t tell you how much I’ve learned about myself through journaling… it’s probably the next best thing to therapy (which is also seriously awesome).

5. Remember That You Are Enough.

Make it your mantra.

“I am enough.”

Go easy on yourself. Choose to love yourself.

Step out of your ego and stop comparing yourself. You are exactly where you should be right now.

Whether or not you are having successes, you are enough and you are very, very worthy. :)

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